21/6/2011



where two wrongs do not make a right

i don’t condone her actions but some of the revenge-seekers definitely doesn’t seem any better.

true - she did partake in the vancouver riots and while her actions might be arguably less worse then some of the vandalism and assault, it definitely shouldn’t be easily forgiven.

she did give an apology and would have looked better if she left it at that. but really - the racism she recieved was not justified. i believe these attackers took this opportunity to be publically racist as if they were justified in doing so. and it boggles my mind how they feel they are better then this UBC student who did turn herself into the police and admitted to theft.

at the least, she admitted that what she did was wrong.

but the racists? will they ever be able to admit that they were wrong? do they HAVE to stoop to that level JUST to point out that what she did was bad? are they not capable of stating the obvoius without having to pull at stereotypes and other hatefull things based on a person’s race?

in fact, isn’t the display of such racism a form of abuse? of verbal assault? and therefore, isn’t THAT just as bad as theft, if not worse in some circumstances? isn’t it this type of witch-hunt a form of violence that could also lead to another type of mob mentality? one that could result in physical harm to a human being?

once again, i’m disappointed by our species. on so many levels.

Tagged: rant, .

09/6/2011



random updates with a humidex of 43 celcius

  • it’s hot outside. hot. and while rain is needed to relieve us, i’m pretty pissed off that it’s falling on a saturday. it’s like that every week. at the beginning, they announce cheerfully not to worry about the rain we just had on the weekend because next weekend will be two full days of sunshine. pffbbbt. whatever - as soon as we approach mid-week, the sunny forecast turns to rain and overcast skies.

  • chaeli has now finished her four captain underpants chapter books and just started her first of five diary of a wimpy kid chapter book series. i didn’t realize she was that far ahead. damn - my kid gets to read more then i do! but i’m still happy for her that she’s not only able to read and understand herself, but purely enjoying the experience.

  • we work beside this hotel. not a bad hotel. i would probably say it is a 3 star hotel which is pretty standard over here. our cafeteria is situated right next to the parking lot of this hotel and you can clearly do some people watching from the windows. apparently, there is one man who is a repeat customer - each time he checks in, he’s with another lady.

  • the ‘children of the corn’ neighbours moved out a couple of weeks ago. just like that. we didn’t even know they were selling. and while the walls are thin enough not to cover all noise, so far, our new neighbours are a big improvement. at the same time, who knows how long our lucky streak will last. it is a little odd that i have never even seen them. all i see is their car. and some things they’ve moved to the back patio. anyway, i can go out and enjoy the backyard without having two creepy kids standing next to each other, and staring at me so deeply i’m expecting laser lights to shoot out of their eyeballs.

  • hobbes is starting to ‘talk’ to us. up until now, the sounds he makes have been limited - barking, growling, whining and big sighs. now, he is making noises that are sounding like he is trying to talk to us. i’ve seen this happen with other dogs and sometimes, it can take a few years to develop. it will be nice, though, if he reaches that point. i would much rather hear this type of ‘talking’ over barking and whining.

  • there was a thing on the radio - of how people take their ipad with them to the washroom. and i have to say, that makes sense. it’s not too much different from reading a book, magazine or newspaper while sitting on the loo. in fact, i’ve read most of your blogs while on the loo.

01/6/2011



letter to management

i’m tired and frustrated and tired. it’s hard enough to keep up with the daily grind. there just doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day.

but at least when i’m on my way home, i know that i’ll have some peace and some solutide. even if it doesn’t come until 10pm at night. it’s something - something to look forward to.

yesterday, though, that peace was completely broken. by a letter hand-delivered from security from the site manager of our townhouse condo.

it told us that the by-law states that christmas decorations are only allowed from december 15th to january 15th, each year. honest to god, i never knew about this by-law and honest to god, i know it’s sad that we still have a fake evergreen garland wrapped around one of our poles on our front porch.

as for the christmas lights out back, we had planned on keeping up as patio lights. isn’t that what some people do?

but the thing is… i’m not exactly sure where they get off with such pettiness when they have yet to address the leaking roof situation that happened a few months ago (on a day where the snow started to melt all at once). i decided to compose a letter to them:

Dear Property Management;

I thank you for our letter to remind us about our one christmas decoration still hung up. We will most certinaly take out down this weekend.

While I apologize for our extremely busy lives which rendered this one tiny thing overlooked, I do want a chance to explain our situation.

You see, I do remember the day I had planned on taking the decorations down quite well. I remember sitting there in my office, me on my computer and my huband and his. i commented to him, “Honey, it’s about time we take down the Christmas decor…”

Unfortunately, my thought was never communicated out in full. I was interrupted by this noise… and it took me some time to figure out what that noise was. When I honed in more on the source, I realized that it was a sound not at all unlike the water droplets dripping down in rhythm onto a metal cabinet.

It was only then that I realized that water was coming from the ceiling on the 2nd floor.

“But how could that be?” I asked myself. They said that they fixed the leak in our roof a year ago. No… certainly all this maintenance fee, especially the drastic increases that have struck us these past three years, would give us at least the comforts in knowing that our management would uphold their end of the bargain.

Well, it turns out that that ‘fix’ of the roof in the previous years (which yes, I have all the emails and photos of the damages to prove from last year) was just a bandaid patch. And it was never communicated to us that the problem wasn’t actually resolved. We were only lead to believe that it was.

Don’t you hate it when you pay money to people that you find basially with-hold the truth from you? Especially in regards to your own home, which is suppose to be a safe haven. It’s very unsettling.

Fast forward to this year, I suppose I simply just forgot about the Christmas decorations. Perhaps it’s just something that didn’t seem so important to me. Petty, even, since we’ve contacted our management asking for updates about our roof situation a couple of times with no reply what-so-ever. All we were asking was for some updates and to keep us in the loop.

I assumed that the increase of over $70 a month in maintenance fee from a couple of years ago’s rate, would at LEAST improve the communication efforts from management. Sadly, I guessed wrong.

And since we have this devastating hole in our office ceiling with water damage that started to also effect the attached walls, our ceiling on the floor above and below, not at all knowing what type of mould has now accumulated in the insulation and structure of what we can not see (oh, and did I mention that my sinus headaches have increased this year not only due to the allergy season but most likely the mould spores which are extremely hard on my allergies?), it’s been a depressing state for us to come home to every day.

While you felt the need to point out our one garland outside, I suppose it is only fair to also point out some of your management faults.

One being the change of the garage opener. Rather then getting this communicated by a letter, it was posted on the outside door of our garbage bin area.

Have you ever visited that area? If so, I’m not sure if you would like to stay in that area for long. It’s pretty filthy with a not so very pleasant stench. I don’t blame this on management, of course. Garbage bin areas are never pleasant. But to expect people to stand in that area to read signs/notices is, well, I suppose I would like to know exactly who came up with this idea in regards to property communication?

When the day came where my garage opener would not work, it happened to be a cold day. My daughter (very young) was in the back sporting a fever. I talked into the intercom to the security guard and asked if he could just let me in and that I would exchange the garage door remote once my husband came home. He would have no such thing though - oh no. I was to come right away.

Well, you see, it was rush hour. And none of the parking spots outside was empty. I had no choice but to park on the sidewalk just outside of the security office. The area you sometimes use to unload things as it is lead by a ramp from our driveway/street.

Yes, yes, I understand. It was not an area to park and I assure you, I was planning to move as soon as possible. I didn’t want to take my poor 6 year old out and well, if I parked further and left her in the car by herself, that would have been child negligance. Surely your corporation does not support this type of illegal, child abuse, right?

So I did what I could only do with the poor choices.

The security guard, however, was not at all sympathetic. In fact, when I tried to explain the situation to him, he just shut the window, ordering me to move the car.

I was appalled - he wouldn’t even listen to my reason. I went home humiliated and once again, wondered how this area, this place which once prized itself in it’s advertisement as ‘luxurty townhomes’ has come to this.

Leaky roof - two years in a row. Improper communication. Not care of a sick child. All this… and yet I’M the bad one for apparently, overlooking one little thing… a Christmas garland.

Well, I do thank you for taking the time to read this very lengthy letter. I know… this is probably of little concern to you.

But remember.

I’m the client.

I pay you through my maintenance fee.

The decorations will be removed by your prescribed date but if we do not have an update in regards to our leaky roof situation, we will report you to the Better Business Bureau.

Hope you have a nice day.

Best Regards,

Shy,

PS - your garbage men never emptied out the recycyled bins as scheduled last week.

Tagged: rant, .

13/5/2011



it’s friday. where the hell did the week go?

every monday night… no wait. scratch that. every SUNDAY night, i always think to myself, “man, i wish it was friday.” but by the time the week starts, everything happens to fast, i’m ridiculously busy and by the time i go to bed, i’m usually asleep before my head hits the pillow.

it’s a blur. and sometimes, i even sit there and wonder to myself, “what just happened?” as in… where did the week go? what significant thing even happened this week? WHO AM I AGAIN?

anyway…

summer is starting to come but the rain seems to be hitting us on most weekends. that sucks. seriously. that makes me want to shake my fist to the sky and scream, “why, god, why???” it’s cruel, really. not fair at all.

plus, i have a dog that hates to be out in the rain. it’s a little embarrassing but in all honesty, i can’t say that i blame him.

and now that i am finding myself finally on a friday, i am graced with a flat tire - a slow leak that didn’t show any signs of a problematic tire until just now when a good co-worker thankfully gave me heads up about it.

as i look at the weekend forecast, once again… RAIN! ALL WEEKEND LONG!

it’s time to sit back, make some tea and read a good book.

Tagged: hobbes, rant, .

11/5/2011



negotiating with a paw

a couple of friday’s ago, i came home to find that my parents had already picked up chaeli from school and were back at our house. hobbes had been home all day.

normally, when i come home, hobbes routinely follows me upstairs while i change out of my work clothes. that day, he ran right up to the bottom of the stairs and then stopped dead in his tracks.

i turned to look at him briefly but didn’t think much of it. until i got the very top landing. a landing which is also home to a very large, potted plant. usually, this plant sits there pretty insignificantly - letting us pass by it almost unnoticed since it now is just blended in to that top-landing scenery.

that day, however, while the plant was still as it was in it’s usual corner directly under our skylight, there was dirt circling around it as well as a trail of dirt on our carpet.

i looked at it and muttered, damn dog.

i quickly changed and then headed downstairs to find him. but… he was no where to be found. what he did was head down to the basement to sit with my dad. now, the couch we have down there is right next to the stairs so that when you sit down and turn your head to the left, you can see up the stairway. apparently, hobbes was sitting on the opposite side of my dad from the stairs, peeking up the whole time. as soon as i appeared, he ducked down. and when i came downstairs to get him heck, he even tries to scurry behind my dad.

my dad didn’t move for him - when hobbes surrendered to defeat, he flopped his chin on my dad’s lap as he looked up at me. if dogs could talk, i swear, the words coming from hobbes would have been something like, “oh mom. i’m sorry - i couldn’t help myself!”

i must say, it’s hard to stay mad when they look this cute and obviously sincere. still - i had to finish this off. so i carried him upstairs and went through the whole procedure… pointing at the mess, asking him in a stern voice if he did all that, then confirming that what he did was bad. the whole time, his ears were as low as possible, he was slouched over with his head hanging down. he also was trying to avoid eye contact - doug says it’s ‘the look of shame’ that they fear.

then, while he looked away with guilt, he raised his paw and tried to offer me a paw-shake.

i must admit - it’s damn hard trying to stay angry when all you want to do is laugh!

Tagged: hobbes, parenting, rant, .

03/5/2011



i’m not here to debate about politics…

i’m just here to whine.

last night, our country became a majority-conservative lead nation.

the worse i was hoping was a minority-conservative leadership. and the fact that the liberals lost by a landslide make their future look bleak.

what is worse… what really aggravates me, are the many voters who were liberals in the past, deciding to switch over to conservatives. the reasons behind their choices boggled my mind. and scared me.

the worse explanation - harper and his administration were able to with hold a strong economy in canada while the rest of the world suffered. and to this i wonder why they thought harper had anything really to do with this. it was our banks. our banks held strong and didn’t cave like that of our fellow american banks. we didn’t have anywhere close to the foreclosures of homes as they did.

i woke up feeling quite sad and disappointed, this morning.

Tagged: rant, .

02/5/2011



the one day of sunshine

we had only one day of sunshine and glorious weather last week and it happened to fall on the saturday i had to go and get recertified for first aid and cpr.

wah!

doug and chaeli took hobbes to a dog park - from what i heard, they had a lot of fun.

i, on the other hand, was stuck inside a classroom, doing a very crunched and speedy crash-course from what i learned from the 2-day class three years ago (which i’ll have to do in full again during my next recert in three years - they only allow the 1-day recert once between the 2-day class years).

still, it was good, though. the speed was quick but i was glad to not have to be stuck in the class for more then a day AND sit through a slow moving class. by test time, i was a little bit worried that i would do worse then the first time (i got 1 wrong when i first got certified) but ended up getting perfect.

the instructor even laughed at me when he handed it back, saying, “oh whatever, shy… you got 100%!”

now speaking about he instructor, i was extremely impressed with him. he was very engaging, supportive and personable. i only got to hear little bits of his personal life and if we had more time, i would have asked him some questions.

one big question would have been his age. he was young but all that he’s done - i can’t imagine some one so young that has accomplished so much! it was impressive and definitely puts my younger years to shame!

i only gather he’s in his early 20’s because he’s studying at university in the music program (and doubling in business) but it’s possible that he’s in his later 20’s, too. i don’t know - i’m really bad at telling a person’s age. especially when they act so mature.

there was another girl in class who’s 3rd year in her university studies. now HER i could tell her age was young. she was annoying - really, really annoying. at the end, while people were still writing, she was talking and flirting very loudly at the instructor, who tried his best to just pacify her.

i was tempted to just get to the point between the two - perhaps assist in exchanging phone numbers if there was a mutual interest, just to shut her up!

anyway - point is, i’m recertified and was able to get home before 5:30pm to enjoy some daylight. doug bbq-ed some steaks. afterwards, we watched ‘prince of persia’ because chaeli wanted a family movie night.

not bad - kind of weird to see jake gyllenhaal in that type of role. he did alright though - i suppose his character grew on me. i admit i was only partialy watching the movie (was sort of dozing at some points - not because i was bored but just very, very tired).

Tagged: parenting, rant, .

30/3/2011



escaping the politics

i haven’t blogged much because i’ve been overworked and pretty much stressed out. and while i’m tempted to vent about all the silly politics that’s been going on around me, i’m more inclined to just put that aside so i can write about other things in life.

besides, after doug came home last night from his evening class, we stayed up until midnight, discussing all the issues i’ve been facing at work. and trying, where possible, to come up with a solution.

since our country weekend get-away, hobbes has come back extremely matted. and while we did try to detangle the furry mess, it was just impossible. at least impossible to do it without causing him pain. since then, it’s only gotten worse as he scratches and gnaws at them, making each knot bigger and bigger.

we spoke with our groomer and she basically said that when dog reachs this point, the only they can do is give them a shave.

it’s time to change the style anyway. it will prepare him for the warmer months. it’s still cold in the mornings and evening so we may need to invest in a doggy sweater. honestly, something i’ve never imagined getting for a dog but now i see why it may be necessary.

chaeli’s 2nd report card came in today. for her core subjects (math and english), she did about the same as far as grades, with one new section graded in english (novel study) and two new sections for math (data management and problem solving). in total, there are now 6 sections graded in each core subjects. she received mainly B+ (high 80’s) and some A- (low 90’s). we were pleased because the comments were all positive and while the grades did not change much, the material did - much more comprehensive and difficult then in the first term.

what was also nice was to see that in all other subjects, she received from A- to A+, with an exception in science (B+).

i had to laugh when i read that her one A+ was in computer studies. i made a remark to doug, “yeah, i’m not worried about her grade in computer class - it’s somewhat inherited.”

as for me, i was more into the comments this time then the grades. and am learning that the teacher’s comments shed way more light then a mere letter or grade.

anyway, chaeli was totally eager to see her own resutls. i let her read it at the back of the car on the way home the day we receive the report card in her folder at school. all i could hear was exhasperated whispers of “YESSSS!!!” from the back as she went down the list of grades.

there are about 3 more weeks of doug’s two-nights per week classes and it’s a major countdown for me. the long winter on top of a lot of things happening for work for me, has made the mid-week and half of the weekends where he gone, pretty tough. he’s tired, i’m tired… and the crazy thing is that part of my frustration is that i can not work late either tuesdays or wednesdays which are usually the days that are more optimal for me to work late. i’ve been working late fridays instead and then bringing home work.

who wants to work late on fridays and over the weekend when they can get it over earlier in the work week?

so it’s a bit ironic… i’m countding down to the weeks where i can work late on those two days which is a wierd thing to want to do. but given the option, it’s the lesser of two evils.

18:14



escaping the politics

it’s time to change the style. it will prepare him for the warmer months. it’s still cold in the mornings and evening so we may need to invest in a doggy sweater. honestly, something i’ve never imagined getting for a dog but now i see why it may be necessary.

chaeli’s 2nd report card came in today. for her core subjects (math and english), she did about the same as far as grades, with one new section graded in english (novel study) and two new sections for math (data management and problem solving). in total, there are now 6 sections graded in each core subjects. she received mainly B+ (high 80’s) and some A- (low 90’s). we were pleased because the comments were all positive and while the grades did not change much, the material did - much more comprehensive and difficult then in the first term.

what was also nice was to see that in all other subjects, she received from A- to A+, with an exception in science (B+).

i had to laugh when i read that her one A+ was in computer studies. i made a remark to doug, “yeah, i’m not worried about her grade in computer class - it’s somewhat inherited.”

as for me, i was more into the comments this time then the grades. and am learning that the teacher’s comments shed way more light then a mere letter or grade.

anyway, chaeli was totally eager to see her own resutls. i let her read it at the back of the car on the way home the day we receive the report card in her folder at school. all i could hear was exhasperated whispers of “YESSSS!!!” from the back as she went down the list of grades.

there are about 3 more weeks of doug’s two-nights per week classes and it’s a major countdown for me. the long winter on top of a lot of things happening for work for me, has made the mid-week and half of the weekends where he gone, pretty tough. he’s tired, i’m tired… and the crazy thing is that part of my frustration is that i can not work late either tuesdays or wednesdays which are usually the days that are more optimal for me to work late. i’ve been working late fridays instead and then bringing home work.

who wants to work late on fridays and over the weekend when they can get it over earlier in the work week?

so it’s a bit ironic… i’m countding down to the weeks where i can work late on those two days which is a wierd thing to want to do. but given the option, it’s the lesser of two evils.

23/2/2011



texting and phone use during dinner

so this blogger basically entitles his blog, “I Will Check My Phone At Dinner and You Will Deal With It.”

i would comment on his blog but wordpress has this really annoying thing of keeping you on the email subscription forever so that if the blog post is very popular, anyone who makes a new comment will force that blog at the top in your ‘my comments’ page. ever months after you’ve lost interest in that post.

[if anyone knows how to stop this, please let me know. and if there’s no way to stop this then wordpress should really consider fixing this problem. man do i miss vox!]

i think my comment would have basically been, “you’ve spent a lot of time just to justify and make it seem okay to be rude at the dinner table.”

he refers back to his mother a lot and basically goes on and on about how the older generation needs to basically just deal with it and change. well, i’m not from that older generation. i’m a total geek - and a bit of a gadget geek. i’m also a mother and i know one rule that will stick in our household - there will be no texting or using one’s handheld device at the dinner table. not at home nor when we go out to a restaurant - even if it’s a pub.

i’m not saying this should be everyone’s rule within their household, but i don’t at all see why it’s a negative rule, as this blogger seems to want make his point around. or… maybe he’s yet again, making justifications of his rude behaviour… to his mother, especially. because really, he’s going on and on about how surfing/texting enhances the social experience. right… true to some degree. because if you’re having a meal with peers who all do the same thing, i can somewhat see that if the surfing involves the discussion (i.e. looking for information). i can’t, however, see how his reasoning hear applies at all to his mother.

if he, as he puts it, has to text under the table, pretending all the long to me looking at the menu, then i would like to ask this person, ‘how exactly is this enhancing your social experience with your mother?” he claims that talking on the phone and engaging in texting where it obviously takes up a good amount of time at the table, excluding others, is the exception to his rule.

so in the scenerio where he’s secretly texting so that he doesn’t get in trouble by his mommy… how is that escape this grand ‘exception to the rule’ of his? there sits a person who wasn’t born into a generation where being rude at the dinner table is socially acceptable.

what ever happen to taking in the account the background of the person in which one is dining with? it’s the same as certain cultural traditions - you’re the bigger person to try to abide by such guidelines in hopes to not offend the person/people across from you at the table. is age/generation all of the sudden not something he should factor in?

personally, i don’t have any patience with people who want to be glued to their phone or mobile device. when i make time to go out to dinner (being a full-time, working mother, it’s not like i have all the time in the world to do this), the last thing i want is to sit there and try to have a conversation with a friend only to get interrupted a dozen times because they get a call or an incoming text. if this is the way of the future, we’re going to have a much harder time with meaningful relationships - it’s bad enough that we’re communicating to each other through 140 characters (not that that is bad in itself, i mean the people who do not use any other form of communication - or very little of it).

if this blogger feels that this is actually enhancing his social skills, i would like to challenge him to go out with friends and leave his mobile device completely off. i would no doubt predict he will have a hard time to communicate.

and if this is the case, i would further extend my prediction to issues he will have in his interpersonal relationships in the long run. i.e. marriage or even his communication skills with his children.

such things, regardless of the of device, has not changed in how it effects how we communicate with one another.

i can say one thing - i have dinner with my parents and other close family members about every two to three weeks. we sit down and eat with no tv or anything else that we are hooked up to anyway throughout our waking ours of the week. we sit there and we talk. like really talk. and it doesn’t matter what we talk about - it can be serious, entertaining… whatever.

it’s the best. not just because we’re spending quality time with one another, but we’re not aided by devices which eventually is used as a crutch that mimics the appearance of ‘enhancement’. the converstations stand on their own - natural and strong.

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