texting and phone use during dinner
so this blogger basically entitles his blog, “I Will Check My Phone At Dinner and You Will Deal With It.”
i would comment on his blog but wordpress has this really annoying thing of keeping you on the email subscription forever so that if the blog post is very popular, anyone who makes a new comment will force that blog at the top in your ‘my comments’ page. ever months after you’ve lost interest in that post.
[if anyone knows how to stop this, please let me know. and if there’s no way to stop this then wordpress should really consider fixing this problem. man do i miss vox!]
i think my comment would have basically been, “you’ve spent a lot of time just to justify and make it seem okay to be rude at the dinner table.”
he refers back to his mother a lot and basically goes on and on about how the older generation needs to basically just deal with it and change. well, i’m not from that older generation. i’m a total geek - and a bit of a gadget geek. i’m also a mother and i know one rule that will stick in our household - there will be no texting or using one’s handheld device at the dinner table. not at home nor when we go out to a restaurant - even if it’s a pub.
i’m not saying this should be everyone’s rule within their household, but i don’t at all see why it’s a negative rule, as this blogger seems to want make his point around. or… maybe he’s yet again, making justifications of his rude behaviour… to his mother, especially. because really, he’s going on and on about how surfing/texting enhances the social experience. right… true to some degree. because if you’re having a meal with peers who all do the same thing, i can somewhat see that if the surfing involves the discussion (i.e. looking for information). i can’t, however, see how his reasoning hear applies at all to his mother.
if he, as he puts it, has to text under the table, pretending all the long to me looking at the menu, then i would like to ask this person, ‘how exactly is this enhancing your social experience with your mother?” he claims that talking on the phone and engaging in texting where it obviously takes up a good amount of time at the table, excluding others, is the exception to his rule.
so in the scenerio where he’s secretly texting so that he doesn’t get in trouble by his mommy… how is that escape this grand ‘exception to the rule’ of his? there sits a person who wasn’t born into a generation where being rude at the dinner table is socially acceptable.
what ever happen to taking in the account the background of the person in which one is dining with? it’s the same as certain cultural traditions - you’re the bigger person to try to abide by such guidelines in hopes to not offend the person/people across from you at the table. is age/generation all of the sudden not something he should factor in?
personally, i don’t have any patience with people who want to be glued to their phone or mobile device. when i make time to go out to dinner (being a full-time, working mother, it’s not like i have all the time in the world to do this), the last thing i want is to sit there and try to have a conversation with a friend only to get interrupted a dozen times because they get a call or an incoming text. if this is the way of the future, we’re going to have a much harder time with meaningful relationships - it’s bad enough that we’re communicating to each other through 140 characters (not that that is bad in itself, i mean the people who do not use any other form of communication - or very little of it).
if this blogger feels that this is actually enhancing his social skills, i would like to challenge him to go out with friends and leave his mobile device completely off. i would no doubt predict he will have a hard time to communicate.
and if this is the case, i would further extend my prediction to issues he will have in his interpersonal relationships in the long run. i.e. marriage or even his communication skills with his children.
such things, regardless of the of device, has not changed in how it effects how we communicate with one another.
i can say one thing - i have dinner with my parents and other close family members about every two to three weeks. we sit down and eat with no tv or anything else that we are hooked up to anyway throughout our waking ours of the week. we sit there and we talk. like really talk. and it doesn’t matter what we talk about - it can be serious, entertaining… whatever.
it’s the best. not just because we’re spending quality time with one another, but we’re not aided by devices which eventually is used as a crutch that mimics the appearance of ‘enhancement’. the converstations stand on their own - natural and strong.
