22/7/2011



bloggin at wp

for the past several months, i have been posting mainly at posterous which also auto-posted to my various blog accounts - wordpress, tumblr and typepad.

but… it doesn’t cross over the tags well. and because i’m horrible with my typo’s and always in a rush, i end up needing to go to all sites to edit because posterous will not auto-correct any of the sites that i posted to.

in lue of all this craziness, i’ve decided to stick with just one place. and it’s the one place where i get more functionality and control.

from now on, if you want to follow me, i’ll be at my shythom.wordpress.com account.

see you over there.

11/7/2011



the art of one-night camping trips

there’s definitely an art to it. mainly, the goal is to create a system where packing and then unpacking is smooth and easy. which is hard to do and to be honest, i haven’t figured it all out just yet but i’ve made it my project to find out how to do it.

friends of mine use to have in their trunk a box of equipment and some clothing (older stuff they don’t mind getting worn and dirty) all set in their trunk. maybe even a sleeping bag or two as well. when the mood hit, they would just toss in the tent and some food, keeping the meals really easy.

returning from their weekend trip, all it took was to store any leftover food and do the laundry.

easier said then done when it comes to just taking care of yourself. throw in a kid, a dog and a husband who likes to over-pack, and you’ve got yourself quite a handful.

still, i’m determined to make it easier because while there is still work involved, i loved camping this weekend. and i really want to do more of it.

i made some mental notes this time around in areas we can cut back on and improve on. when we unpacked, i asked doug to keep this one box out with supplies we have at home, that we can keep for future camping trips. i’ll be building on that box. at the moment, we’re still borrowing some utensils we have at home and then having to unpack them and store them away for daily use. so, i’ll be looking at keeping a set just for camping, along with other supplies.

food is an area we need to improve on. we always created ‘gourmet’ meal plans and we have to let go of that when we’re just going for a night or two. it might mean sandwiches, ramen noodles and/or kraft mac ‘n cheese with chopped hot dogs. and while there’s nothing like fried eggs and bacon/sausage in the morning, the time it takes to make and clean up forces us to not get a chance to explore the park until closer to noon when the day is starting to get hot. cereal, milk and fruit will have to do.

and a bag of rain gear should always be packed with some fleece for unexpected cold nights - all just left in the trunk. picnic blankets can be left in the trunk as well.

there’s a lot we can do that doesn’t need repacking each time.

anyway, we did have a great weekend regardless of how short it was. i will write a separate post about it with photos later on this week.

06/7/2011



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beautiful head shots

so for wk 1 and 2 of chaeli’s summer adventuring, we sent her to a stage acting camp which basically will result in an hour production on an actual theatre stage with all the technical sound and lighting to boot! and the thing is that while there’s your usual teen camp councelors who assist, the groups are lead by professional actors/actresses.

i met one the other day. he’s australian. and kind of hot. at least that’s what i noticed - it wasn’t actually looking, per say. i mean, when beauty presents itself infront of you, you notice.

and i just sounded like a guy right now who got caught with wandering eyes.

anyway, they had a board put up with both a headshot photo, name and profie next to each picture.

the purpose of this board, i would presume, is for parents to know who is who and therefore, know who is interacting with their child each day. i like that, of course - there should never be anything to hide when it comes to caregiving. the more they share, the more comforting it is to us.

but i couldn’t help but notice how gorgeous everyone was! of course, the headshots are professionally done and is required by any actor/actress to have a supply of them, just as any of us requires business cards. it’s part of their portfolio/resume, after all.

so there i was, just standing there, stunned and wondering if chaeli will at all even remember that her days here at this particular camp might just be the only time she will be lead by a staff THAT good-looking. like… all of them.

plus, their portfolio read like a resume, almost.

anyway, i’m looking forward to the show next week. and hoping chaeli has a fabulous time!

Tagged: parenting, .

04/7/2011



bittersweet last school day

as much as i welcome the carefree summer months for chaeli where she will be having fun at various camps (no homework or tests), it was sad to see the last day of grade 1 come and go.

for chaeli, she has had a roller coaster of a year. but as she will learn in life, it’s that roller coaster that will create passions, memories and milestones - all adding up to life’s experience. the key, really, to growing.

the roller coaster effect was due to the ups and downs of what i would say was a transitional year for her. as mentioned before, grade one was a whole new world. especially at a more academic environment. but it was well worth it. not just for the end-result, but more due to the journey. she has learned so much - both text-book information and so much more. most importantly, she has learned the value of working hard and putting her effort into doing well. the reminder we set forth to her is that the effort is key. i would MUCH rather take a hard B then an easy A anyday. so when her first two report cards came with mostly B’s and just the odd A’s here and there, we were content. only because we witnessed how hard she worked to learn all these new lessons and concepts.

by the third term, however, it was evident that the hard work was pulling off. she was getting things with much more ease and able to understand the concepts better. and while we were happy, but not surprised, to see all A’s on her 3rd report card, i was, once again, much more delighted with the teacher’s comments.

a grade is just a grade. but the comments gives us a more fuller picture in areas where she has improved. or maybe is still struggling - it’s things we want to know.

she also walked away with two awards, one for ‘caring’ and one for the academic achievement in computer studies (academic awards are given to about 5 students per grade in each subjects).

still, it was an emotional last two weeks as the last day approached us. chaeli had been talking about how she didn’t want the school year to end. she even asked her teachers if she could carry a box of tissues on the final day - claiming she was afraid she would be crying all day long. one of the teachers said that in her 17 years of working in this profession, she has never heard a child say something even close to that. it almost got her choked up.

but the teachers did a great job maintaining a positive energy throughout the last day. the children had a lot of fun as they partied and played.

some of the parents, however, did spill some tears. i was close but was able to hold it in. it’s just hard to say good-bye to not just one great teacher, but two! both home room teachers were just so hard-working, caring and wonderful. the level of team commitment with each other, the school and with us was outstanding. i plan to write a letter to the vice-principal and principal to show my appreciation and to give props to the two teachers. it’s the least i can do.

that pretty much sums up the last day… except one more thing. the latest scoop is that chaeli got back together with her previous boyfriend from earlier in the school year. but they forgot to exchange phone numbers which frankly is fine by me.

Tagged: bliss, parenting, .

03/7/2011



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extra loooong canada day weekend

i’ve been on vacation since last tuesday evening. and as we’re nearing the end of our july long weekend, i’m wishing for just one more day off.

it’s been a fun pack five days.

some best friends, ada and hoa, stopped by tuesday night for dinner - they were on their way from vancouver to welland for the dragon boat nationals. ada happened to have a lecture at UofT (btw, it’s so cool to have a friend who does university lectures - i wonder if one of these days, i can attend? how wicked would that be?)

that was the kickstart of mine’s and chaeli’s long-long-extended-weekend. doug had to work on the thursday but was able to get off early so we could go for the dog park and consume yummy sushi and japanese food at our favourite korean-run-japanese restaurant. it’s the best of two worlds - we get both kimchi and sushi.

the rest of our mini-vacation included chinese lunch with my parents, two trips to the dog park down at the beach, another dog park out west plus yet another one up north, lots of ice cream, swinning at my parents’ community centre (well, doug and chaeli went swimming - i use to go when it was salt water, but now they’ve added chemicals and i’m allergic to that), bbq steaks at my parents’ place, movies on netflix, fireworks, picnics at the beach and lots of sunshine!

we only bummed around thursday morning - since doug was at work.

the highlight was visiting fort york on canada day (free admission for that day only) which is a historical site the british built for protection from the invasion of americans in 1813. this site was what started the progression of our city. i hadn’t been back to it since my grade six 3-day trip. all i remember was dressing up in period costume, eating food made like it was made back in the early 1800’s and sleeping in the bunkers where the soldiers use to sleep.

kind of creepy when you think about it.

chaeli had a blast - especially as there were some special events during that day. one of my fave was actually a shadow puppet put on by a performing arts community of the first nations. the music had a spell on me - quite powerful and beautiful.


front gates of fort york with toronto in the backdrop


flag raising ceremony


chaeli helping out in the kitchen


rifle demonstration


view from inside a window in the mess building

01/7/2011



where hobbes feels free and happy

at the east end of downtown, there’s this magnificent dog park along the beach. 2.5 arces of sand, water, trees and trails. our furried, four-pawed friends can run free here. and it’s certainly a favourite of ours. simply because it gives us so much peace.

and hobbes certainly does not mind either.

23/6/2011



about the birds and the bees talk - the questions get tougher

chaeli asked a boy at school to be her boyfriend.

this happened on a tuesday.

the thursday of that same week - a mere two days later - she dumped him.

:/

i asked her why she did that. and with each question, she answered me with a shrug and ‘idunno.’

“did something happen?”

“i dunno.”

“did he do something bad?”

“i dunno.”

“what… did you just change your mind?”

“i dunno.”

“well, is he okay? is he sad?”

“i dunno.”

it’s like she’s 7 going on 16. this isn’t good. not at all.

so we had a talk where she can’t just go around playing her friends like that. and that if she’s going to ask a boy to be her boyfriend, she should at LEAST commit to it for two weeks (which for their age is the standard time of a long-term relationship).

a day later, my parents picked her. my mother told me that chaeli had asked them, “if i have a boyfriend, does that mean i’ll get pregnant? i don’t want to get pregnant.”

then my father pulled me aside and said, “when you two are alone, TALK TO HER!”

most likely, the mystery of why she broke up with this boy only after two days has been solved.

and i’ll be honest… it is tempting to let her believe this myth. just think… staying away from boys! for fear of getting pregnant! any chance i can let this go on until here teen years?

probably not. and the anxiety it is creating isn’t healthy. damn.

i’ll be checking out, It’s So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families pretty soon.
 

Tagged: parenting, .

21/6/2011



where two wrongs do not make a right

i don’t condone her actions but some of the revenge-seekers definitely doesn’t seem any better.

true - she did partake in the vancouver riots and while her actions might be arguably less worse then some of the vandalism and assault, it definitely shouldn’t be easily forgiven.

she did give an apology and would have looked better if she left it at that. but really - the racism she recieved was not justified. i believe these attackers took this opportunity to be publically racist as if they were justified in doing so. and it boggles my mind how they feel they are better then this UBC student who did turn herself into the police and admitted to theft.

at the least, she admitted that what she did was wrong.

but the racists? will they ever be able to admit that they were wrong? do they HAVE to stoop to that level JUST to point out that what she did was bad? are they not capable of stating the obvoius without having to pull at stereotypes and other hatefull things based on a person’s race?

in fact, isn’t the display of such racism a form of abuse? of verbal assault? and therefore, isn’t THAT just as bad as theft, if not worse in some circumstances? isn’t it this type of witch-hunt a form of violence that could also lead to another type of mob mentality? one that could result in physical harm to a human being?

once again, i’m disappointed by our species. on so many levels.

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catch-up

i am so very behind on my blogging. i even had photos i wanted to upload from a few weeks ago - all still on my camera.

then i got hit with a nasty bug mid-last week and have been recovering ever since. as of Sunday, i felt much better but am still coughing and blowing my nose. so this will be another random update of some sort.

  • last sunday night, i found myself alone at the beach. i had a challenging week and i needed some space. so i decided to let doug take care of chaeli’s bedtime routine while i took a drive. i didn’t plan on going back but that’s basically where i ended up. it’s a peaceful place. when i arrived, i couldn’t help but notice a lot of people park their cars and just sit there, staring off into the lake. did they all need some solitude as well? or were they just there to kill time?

  • wednesday was doug’s birthday but unfortunately, it was also the day i got sick. still, we had a nice steak dinner.

  • saturday was the day we celebrated doug’s birthday with my family. everyone except my aunt and my mom caught the matinee for x-men first class. excellent. probably the best written x-men movie yet and i do hope that they continue down this path.

  • saturday evening, we went to my aunt’s/uncle’s for some lobster. what a treat! i have not had lobster for quite awhile and my 1.5 little red dude completely filled my tummy.

  • sunday morning, we slept in and then first went to the dog park on the way to my parents’ place and then had both lunch and dinner with my parents. it was simply the perfect weather type of day. blue skies with only a hint of clouds, a light breeze and lots of sunshine (but without the humidity so quite comfortable).

  • we watched two movies on netflix - fearless and ichi. fearless was a great movie. reminds me what jet li is best known for. ichi was fun - mainly eye-candy. i would put it into the whole spaghetti-western quality genre (except all in japanese).
Tagged: bliss, family, geek, solitude, .

09/6/2011



random updates with a humidex of 43 celcius

  • it’s hot outside. hot. and while rain is needed to relieve us, i’m pretty pissed off that it’s falling on a saturday. it’s like that every week. at the beginning, they announce cheerfully not to worry about the rain we just had on the weekend because next weekend will be two full days of sunshine. pffbbbt. whatever - as soon as we approach mid-week, the sunny forecast turns to rain and overcast skies.

  • chaeli has now finished her four captain underpants chapter books and just started her first of five diary of a wimpy kid chapter book series. i didn’t realize she was that far ahead. damn - my kid gets to read more then i do! but i’m still happy for her that she’s not only able to read and understand herself, but purely enjoying the experience.

  • we work beside this hotel. not a bad hotel. i would probably say it is a 3 star hotel which is pretty standard over here. our cafeteria is situated right next to the parking lot of this hotel and you can clearly do some people watching from the windows. apparently, there is one man who is a repeat customer - each time he checks in, he’s with another lady.

  • the ‘children of the corn’ neighbours moved out a couple of weeks ago. just like that. we didn’t even know they were selling. and while the walls are thin enough not to cover all noise, so far, our new neighbours are a big improvement. at the same time, who knows how long our lucky streak will last. it is a little odd that i have never even seen them. all i see is their car. and some things they’ve moved to the back patio. anyway, i can go out and enjoy the backyard without having two creepy kids standing next to each other, and staring at me so deeply i’m expecting laser lights to shoot out of their eyeballs.

  • hobbes is starting to ‘talk’ to us. up until now, the sounds he makes have been limited - barking, growling, whining and big sighs. now, he is making noises that are sounding like he is trying to talk to us. i’ve seen this happen with other dogs and sometimes, it can take a few years to develop. it will be nice, though, if he reaches that point. i would much rather hear this type of ‘talking’ over barking and whining.

  • there was a thing on the radio - of how people take their ipad with them to the washroom. and i have to say, that makes sense. it’s not too much different from reading a book, magazine or newspaper while sitting on the loo. in fact, i’ve read most of your blogs while on the loo.

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